Do Gays Really Want To Marry?

LEGALIZED, GOVERNMENT SANCTIONED gay marriage is spreading across the fruited plain like kudzu, in our newly enlightened culture, replete with equal rights for all, or at least most. What is it now, fourteen states with legalized state sanctionded gay marriage? More power to em, of course. Long time coming. You look at the dates on which minorities got their rights, and you reflect that in every case, it happened about a hundred years later than it should have. Such is the sluggish nature of social progress. The gay community is flush with pride right about now, justifiably so; they are now getting equal treatment, at least in some places, with more to come. People who are made homosexual by nature, or nature's god, are now starting to be treated like real human beings by real human beings. Wonderful. But... Be careful what you wish for, you might get it, goes the ancient wisdom. A cliche, yes, but true. How many women wish that men still opened doors for them, and paid for everything! By legalizing gay marriage, by spending decades fighting feverishly for it, the gay community has, quite obviously, placed the instution of same sex marriages under the control of the state. They wanted the state, and by extension the country, to recognize and respect their equality. But did they really want to submit this most sacred aspect of life to state control, like traditional heterosexual marriage? And did they, as a community, really put much thought and discussion into this issue, the ramifications of state sanctioned, and hence state controlled marriage; of possible unintended consequences? Maybe not. Maybe they should have. Gay people have not really been married long enough, in any state in America, for the inevitable pattern of divorce to assert itself. But at some point, soon enuogh, they will have been, and the divorces will start happening, just as surely as the sun sets, just as surely as half of all marriages end in divorce. Divorces of gay marriages are not likely to be fundamentally different in any way, no less complicated or acrimonious, than run of the mill straight marriages. Family court, divorce court, the same court system used by straight folks, now becomes part of the lives of gay people. Divorce court may ultimately destroy everything the gay community thinks it has worked so hard to achieve, from parenting, to sharing wealth, earnings, and livlihoods. The gay community may be in for a big surprise, and it may end gay marriage altogether.IN this country (America) there are millions of bitter divorced people walking around, bitter because of how they were treated by ex spouses, lawyers, law enforcement officers, judges, courts. Now all that comes into play for divorced gays. Bear in mind that the gay community could very easily have worked through their churches and religions, if they wanted formal marital approval. They could have chosen to keep the state, with all its arbitrary tyranny over the lives of people, entirely out of it, and still gain widespread, indeed universal approval, through churches. Then, they could have gone about the business of seeking legal rights in other issues, property, contracts, employment, and so forth, one issue at a time, through legislatures and courts. But they chose their own marital bed, and now they must lie in it, just like the rest of us.